Abe Observes
Abe Villarreal is the Dean of Student Success at Cochise College. He enjoys writing about people, pastimes, and the small things in life.
Being quiet in a world that's too loud
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- Published: 18 March 2024 18 March 2024
By Abe Villarreal
All my life people have told me to speak up – to enunciate. "You mumble" are two words I hear in meetings and during phone calls. Being loud has never been easy for me. There are already too many loud people in the world.
Still, society expects us all to have certain norms. Stand up straight. Shake a hand firmly. Look people in the eyes. Speak up and loudly. We are all soldiers in somebody's army. Life would be too boring if it was filled with those who speak up all the time.
We all know those people who whisper a little too loudly. They try to not interrupt those around them, but their whispers make noise and blow a lot of air. Those kinds of people always make me giggle.
Grief, obituaries, and choosing words to say
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- Published: 11 March 2024 11 March 2024
By Abe Villarreal
I helped a friend write an obituary this week. It was one of those acts of kindness that come after you tell your friend that you are there for them and will do anything, not knowing what anything really means. It's just a feeling when you say it.
Grief is a complex enemy and friend. It comes and goes. It sucker-punches you just when you are feeling better. It's there when you don't know it is. Sometimes you run away from it. Sometimes you can't escape it. You feel it all around, even when you can't feel anything. When you are numb to everyone and everything.
Sometimes words are all we have to leave behind
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- Published: 25 February 2024 25 February 2024
By Abe Villarreal
We all have people in our lives that we remember for that one statement they made. The saying or the declaration they shared stuck somewhere inside your head. It's the only thing you can clearly remember them saying, and it shapes everything you remember about them.
One of those people in my life was Captain Fred. I never knew his full name. He's one of those guys that everyone called Captain Fred. Captain became his first name and Fred his last. He was a rabble-rouser kind of guy and had one of those beards that was mostly white but yellow in those familiar places where beards are yellow.
I like bumpy roads, and other things that are now unlikeable
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- Published: 19 February 2024 19 February 2024
By Abe Villarreal
There is a lot to like about all the things we don't like anymore. The things that we are too rushed to appreciate, too busy to know they are still there. Too focused on too many things.
Like bumpy roads. I like them. Bumpy roads in the middle of nowhere and bumpy roads on side streets when you are trying to take shortcuts. Bumpy roads that make everyone in the car bump up and down. Or the bumpy roads that make you slow down to almost stopping. We all need some bumpy roads to break up the flatness of our lives.
People don't like drip coffee anymore. The kind of coffee that you prepare first thing as you enter the office. The kind that comes out of the old familiar Mr. Coffee pot. It's got a few tan-colored rings around the corner, but it's been faithful to you. The drip, drip, drip, and the little rumbling sound that you wait to hear to know it's time to get up for your first cup of the day. I like drip coffee.
Pigeon coops and other things we left behind
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- Published: 11 February 2024 11 February 2024
By Abe Villarreal
Every now and then you notice that times have changed. That you are living in a different generation than that of your parents, or teachers, or people that came before you. A different generation than the one you entered at birth. I noticed it when I realized that no one keeps pigeons anymore.
Pigeons in backyards, in homemade coops. People used to have pigeons. Not just farmers but everyday people. My grandparents had pigeons. I wonder why they did. The birds are messy. They need to be taken care of, and every now and then they get out. Sometimes, the dog gets to them which never ends with a happy ending.
It used to be ordinary for ordinary people to have pigeons. Even after the end of the agrarian society, after the industrial revolution, after World War II, after cellular phones, people still had a few pigeons, in coops, in the back yard. Not anymore.
Signs worth reading need to make a return
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- Published: 04 February 2024 04 February 2024
By Abe Villarreal
I like signs that really mean what they say, even if what they say might be a little more than what you thought at first glance. Like "coldest beer in town." I saw that sign at a lonesome pit stop down a rural road in middle-of-nowhere southwest New Mexico.
It was one of those pit stops that only gets a few visitors a day. There's a couple who has lived in the homestead down the valley. They run the place. Wife shows up early to open it up for the coffee drinkers. Husband comes in later to greet the evening drinkers.
The meaning of keeping things from the past
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- Published: 28 January 2024 28 January 2024
By Abe Villarreal
Whenever you think of your grandparents, you think of the things they had but are now long gone. Things that you wish you still had but for some reason don't. Only grandparents have those kinds of things. We'll all be grandparents soon enough.
Like those treasure chests at the end of beds or in closets. They looked like something too fancy for your household, and you wondered how they were passed down through the ages. They surely must have been handed down from aristocrats or royal families. The people you wish to claim as far away ancestors.
My grandparents liked to keep things, just to keep them. That's what you do when you grew up in the great depression. The old jacket from high school. The wedding dress you can't fit into anymore. The lucky hat, the noisy washing machine, the big box TV. The kinds of things that we switch out regularly because we can. Those things they kept.
Moms are the best kind of marketers out there
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- Published: 21 January 2024 21 January 2024
By Abe Villarreal
One new thing about the new year is that I gave up coffee. I never thought I would write these words. Maybe I’ll have it again someday. I know I will, but for now, no coffee.
I started to experience a little bit of acid reflux, and I narrowed it down, through a process of elimination, to the coffee. Now that I’ve been coffee-free for over a week, the reflux is gone.
I’ve always been a coffee drinker and a tea drinker. Now, I’m more of a tea drinker. Green teas, chamomile, mint medleys, and more. Then, when I thought I couldn’t meet a tea I didn’t like – I found Dandelion Root.
At first sip, I felt like I had made a mistake. That in my cup of coffee, there were bitter roots from ancient plants. Unburied after hundreds of years and ground up into a tiny tea bag somehow making its way into modern day supermarkets.